Proper
25A 2014
Father Adam Trambley
Oct 26, 2014 St.John’s Sharon
From this morning’s lesson from Deuteronomy: Then Moses, the servant of the LORD, died
there in the land of Moab, at the LORD’s command.
The Book of Common
Prayer actually instructs Episcopal priests to talk about the practical
aspects of dying and end of life planning at least once a year, and this
reading about Moses’ death is, I think, an excellent model for how we temporally
prepare for our own deaths, as well as deal with the deaths of those we love.
The first point to make is, of course, that Moses died. Moses, the man who got the Ten Commandments,
whom God used to perform powerful works in Egypt and in the desert, and who saw
God face-to-face, this man Moses died.
Scripture tries to explain why in different ways – that Moses did
something that displeased God, that the Israelites sinned so much that their
leader was indirectly punished, or, as it says here rather straightforwardly,
at the LORD’s command. We should
hesitate to assign specific reasons or causes to any particular death, as if we
were some metaphysical coroner. On the
grandest human scale, death comes as a result of collective human sin, but any
particular death is taken most straightforwardly as just something coming at
God’s command. We do best dealing with
death as something that happened, not something we can figure out or claim to
understand.
When Moses died, he saw the Promised Land, but he could not
enter it. All of us die in the midst of
our work, or at least we do if we have imagined the scope of our work
appropriately. No one has ever spent all
the time they want to with their grandchildren, or ensured the success of their
business for the next hundred years, or eliminated hunger, or saved the environment,
or completed the perfect work of art, or evangelized the Shenango Valley, or
even finally cut the grass so that it doesn’t get out of control again in two
weeks. If we have an imagination and
vision, we can see where our godly passions are taking us, but we won’t finally
get there. And that’s OK. Moses didn’t get there either, although he
spent forty years struggling for it. As
the Talmud, a book of Jewish teachings states, “We are not required to complete
our work, but we are not at liberty to quit.”
Then Deuteronomy tells us that Moses was buried, but no one
knows where he is buried, and that the people mourned for him until the
mourning period was ended. Here
scripture is talking to us about letting go appropriately of those who have
died. God didn’t want anyone to know
where Moses was buried because they would have kept coming back and building
shrines, and some folks would have stayed to form the Moses Memorial Society
and make a living selling tchotchkes to tourists. That is not what God wanted. Nor was it what Moses would have wanted. Moses wanted people to follow God’s commands
and live their lives in the Promised Land, and they couldn’t do that if they
kept looking backwards. Certainly Moses
is still remembered and honored three thousand years later. But he is honored by remembering what God did
for him and living into the blessings God provided through him. We move forward in the direction God pointed
through Moses instead of being tied to where he physically stopped.
This moving on could happen because people actually stopped
and mourned. They sat with the hole in
their lives where Moses had been. They
stared into it. They watered it with
their tears as their laments and their songs and their stories and their anger
bounced around in that void. Then, when
the mourning period was over, they had made friends with that emptiness. They still didn’t like it. The loss may still have often been
painful. But they were ready to move on
and allow the hole in their lives to exist until God filled parts of it in new
ways.
Too often today, we stay stuck after a death because we
don’t actually mourn. We don’t make
space and time at a death to become comfortable with the new empty space in our
lives. Instead we keep running back to
the proverbial grave. Rather than allowing
ourselves to move into the Promised Land our loved ones were striving for, we
refuse to go forward and live our lives without them.
I wish I were making this up. |
The line between appropriate remembrance and being tied to
the past is always difficult to navigate, but a few things have become common
that seem unhelpful. One trend is
tattooing the names of deceased loved ones on our bodies. The Old Testament actually forbids this. Our bodies are meant for God’s future work,
not as a plaque for the deceased. These tattoos
are almost always done out of love, but they can still interfere with the
spiritual work of moving forward.
Another increasing trend is for people to keep the ashes of someone who
has been cremated with them in their house, or even in jewelry they wear, or,
perhaps most grotesquely, in stuffed animals with special compartments for the cremains. We are meant to bury or inter
the bodies or ashes of the deceased with honor.
Holding onto remains in places not consecrated for that purpose both
keeps us from the work we have to do in the future and dishonors the remains of
the deceased.
Of course, Moses has done his part in helping the people
move on by preparing them. Once the
mourning period is over, the people are ready to follow Joshua, son of Nun. The people are ready to follow Joshua for two
reasons. First, Moses has made his
wishes clear that Joshua is to take his place by publicly laying his hands on
Joshua. Second, Moses has prepared
Joshua for the job.
Now we may not go around laying hands on people or pouring
oil on their heads as we are preparing to die, but we have ways in our culture
of making our wishes clear for how our legacy is to be carried on. We may not have leadership of a people to pass
on, but we may have money or property or the care of minor children or health
care decisions when we are no longer able to make them or any number of other
responsibilities and blessings to bestow.
Making our wishes on all of these matters clear before we die is
essential if we want to help those after us move on cleanly. Now this can be difficult. Who knows how many people were in the back of
the crowd when Moses laid his hand on Joshua, muttering, “I should have been
the next guy not this stupid Joshua dude.”
Our duty is to make sure everyone is clear about what we want, and then
to write it down in the appropriate legal documents. We should write documents like wills and
health care durable powers of attorney and living wills and whatever else the
lawyers recommend. If we don’t, we may
place an unconscionable burden on our heirs.
But once we have written them, we also need to share them, so that there
are no surprises or fights after the fact.
Let someone make peace with the fact that they aren’t getting the house
before mom dies, so they don’t have to deal with both issues at the same time. Make sure that no one in the family is
surprised at a conference table with the doctor and other family members during
a health care crisis. We need to lay our
proverbial hands on the people we want to make the decisions when we won’t be
able to, and we need to tell them what decisions we want made, and hopefully
those decisions are what we feel the Lord is calling us to do, just like the
commands Moses gave to Joshua.
I want to take a small detour here and just remind folks that
it is entirely appropriate to include the church in any estate planning or will
you might be doing. Allen Hall would
not have been built, and our operating budget would not be sustainable except
for the generosity of people who have left a portion of their estates, large or
small, to St. John’s. Some people leave
whatever they can, some people choose to leave 10 percent of their estate as a
final tithe, and some people decide to endow their pledge in perpetuity,
multiplying their pledge by twenty so that every year the church can use five
percent of their bequest to have support in perpetuity. If you have any questions about how to
include St. John’s in your wills, including how to make gifts of stock or real
estate, please let me know and I can answer those questions. This concludes the word from this morning’s
sponsor.
The last point I want to make about Moses and Joshua is that
Moses prepared Joshua to carry on his work.
Moses gave Joshua important jobs, like scouting out the land of
Canaan. He took him along on important
trips, like up the mountain when he received the Ten Commandments. Granted, Joshua could only go part of the way
up, but it still was leadership training.
Moses spent time with Joshua and ensured he was ready.
We do our own training in different ways, but if we do it
right, we are ready to pass on our mission and purpose. Maybe we let our children host holiday
dinners that we used to do so that they are ready for the next generation of
family gatherings. Maybe we mentor
someone professionally so our trade is passed on. Maybe we share the gospel with someone or
invite someone to church or to a ministry so that the work we think is
important continues. Maybe we just make
sure that those who will make decisions once we are gone are prepared to make
the right decisions. Also worth noting
here is that Moses passed on his leadership to someone who wasn’t his own
child. Some things we might anoint a
family member to do, but some things, especially our work outside our families,
may go to those outside the family, and that is OK.
You may remember that the last speech Martin Luther King,
Jr., gave before he died talked about this passage from Deuteronomy. Dr. King said he has seen the Promised Land,
and that he wasn’t going to get there but that others would. He laid out his vision, he prepared others to
do the work once he was gone, and we all now live in a society that is much
more color-blind than when Brother Martin was alive.
Moses, the servant of the LORD, died. Someday, unless Jesus comes back real soon,
we will all die, too. Our deaths will
come before we’ve gotten to our own promised land, but if we prepare properly,
our deaths can help those who come after us get where they need to go. They can leave us and move closer to the
Promised Land in this life, while we leave them for a time and enter the
Promised Land of eternal life.