Monday, October 3, 2016

Overcoming Fear

Proper 22, Year C, 2016
                                                           Rev. Adam T. Trambley                                  
Oct 2, 2016, St.John’s Sharon

I want to talk a bit about fear this morning. Well, more precisely, I want to talk about overcoming fear.   Paul’s second letter to Timothy this morning says: God did not give us a spirit of fear, but rather a spirit of power and of love and of self-discipline. (The translation we heard this morning mentions a spirit of cowardice and other translations use “timidity”, but the King James talks about a spirit of fear, and all these words tend to work out the same in the wash.) Fear is so important that Paul includes this sentence in his commendation to Timothy about his faith.  What Paul knows is that fear causes the embers of our faith to die and prevents us from using the gifts given to us by God for the building up of his people.

The Big Book of Alcoholics Anonymous has this to say about fear: “This short word somehow touches about every aspect of our lives.  It was an evil and corroding thread; the fabric of our existence was shot through with it.  It set in motion trains of circumstances which brought us misfortune we felt we didn’t deserve.  But did not we, ourselves, set the ball rolling?” (Alcoholics Anonymous Big Book, Fourth Edition, 2001.Page 67).

We have so much misfortune corroding away every aspect of our lives if we live in a spirit of fear.  Yet God did not give us a spirit of fear.  God gives us a spirit of power, and of love, and of self-discipline.  God gives us what we need to overcome fear and live lives of faith.

Many of our fears can be summed up in three basic fears.  We fear not getting what we need.  We fear that we are not good enough.  And we fear other people’s opinions.

First, we fear not getting what we need.  We need a lot of things.  Maybe not as many as we think we do, but we need food, water, a place to live, some money, transportation, a Bible, a church home, and maybe some other things.  Thinking about not having these things is scary.  What would happen if we lose our jobs, or if the utility bill spikes, or some new medical condition arises that interferes with the basic aspects of our lives?  How we react, not to the reality of these occurrences but our own imagination about them, has a lot to do with how much we have been overtaken by a spirit of cowardice. 

The power of fear and cowardice is that they take us to a small place.  We get pulled back to being a little kid overcome by things we don’t understand and can’t control.  We are suddenly back in those times of our lives when we were powerless.  Even if our minds don’t remember the circumstances, our emotions remember the fear and terror we felt.  But God does not want us in that cowered space.  God wants to break that seductive draw of our past immaturity by giving us a spirit of power.

This spirit of power can be thought about from a variety of perspectives.  One is described in today’s gospel – if you have even a little faith, you can say to a mulberry tree, “be uprooted and planted in sea” and it would obey you.  But this power isn’t a magic wand kind of power where we point at the tree, mumble some Latin sounding words out of a Harry Potter book, and the tree moves.  This spirit of power is the ability to overcome obstacles to God’s purposes being fulfilled around us.  It is flicking a light switch and having the darkness flee away.  It is recognizing that none of the difficulties or depredations of life can withstand the awesome onward march of God’s plans and purposes.  When our hope and our faith are aligned with God’s plans and purposes, we can withstand anything because the spirit of God’s power with us can weave the challenges of today into the glorious tapestry of God’s tomorrow. 

Or, to use another analogy, this spirit of power is like the scene in The Lion King when the young lion Simba is surrounded by hyenas.  

They are going to eat him, but instead of backing down with a spirit of cowardice, he steps forward and lets loose his best roar.  His roar is small and week, but what the hyenas hear is the deep, bellowing roar of Simba’s father, the reigning king of the beasts, who is behind him.  When we step forward with the spirit of God’s power and give our own roar, our fears flee because God is behind us roaring along, and his bellow is even stronger than James Earl Jones’s.  We may still face troubles, like Paul, who was in prison then and would eventually lose his life.  But we can do God’s work in the midst of troubles.  And we can trust that God will give us what we need to do that work even if it is not what we thought we needed.  When can’t do God’s work is when we are hunkered down in a spirit of fear.   

The second overarching fear that we have is the fear of not being good enough.  This fear that is rooted in our deep insecurities is also expressed in our fear of not being liked and not being loved.  When we are awash in a spirit of cowardice, this fear prevents us from engaging other people.  We assume that we aren’t good enough for them, and that if we try to build relationships with them, they won’t like us.  We might be rejected, and we can be terrified of rejection because it reinforces all of our fears that we totally inadequate in the first place. 

This fear gets compounded because we spend so much time comparing our insides to other people’s outsides.  We know every issue that we have, and how scared and awkward we are.  Yet we look at other people who seem to have it all together.  If we really knew them, however, and all the things they are struggling with, we’d realize that most people are having as much difficulty keeping it all together as we are.  They are dealing with many of the same things we are.  They feel as insecure around us as we do around them.  They feel as inadequate as we do.  They fear not being loved by us as much as we fear not being loved by them.

While being able to understand that we are all in the same boat may be helpful, the only real way to overcome the fear of not being loved is with the spirit of love.  As Scripture says: perfect love casts out fear.  We don’t have to fear not being good enough because God loves us.  One of the most revolutionary beliefs of Christianity and Judaism is that God loves us.  He made us out of love.  He sustains us out of love.  He redeemed us out of love.  He will bring us into the fullness of eternal life with him out of love.  He sent his Son into the world to live and die to reconcile us back to him out of love.  He has adopted each and every one of us as his children out of love. 

I was at clergy conference this week, and two of my colleagues were discussing how our baptismal service talks about us being adopted children of God.  One of them was adopted and one had adopted two children.  They were visibly moved, because they felt in a deep way just what it meant to be adopted, and the transforming power of that act.  We don’t have to be afraid that we aren’t worthy to be loved, because God our Father has adopted us as his children.  Even if the entire world rejected us, or, as Isaiah says, even if a mother would forget her child, God will not forget us.  He loves us, and he gives us a spirit of love so that we can know that love and live as beloved children of God.

Once we know we are loved, we can share that love with others.  Instead of worrying about whether we are good enough, we can reach out to others and let them know they are worthy of love, as well, by meeting their needs, by building loving relationships with them, and by sharing the good news of God’s love with them.  Instead of withdrawing in a spirit of cowardice, we can love our neighbor.

Our third overarching fear is the fear of other people’s opinions.  What other people think about us is really none of our business, but it sure does bother us.  To be more accurate, though, what other people think about us doesn’t bother us, but what we think other people think about us bothers us.  We really don’t know what other people think about us, but we are generally pretty quick to put together a working hypothesis. 

The spirit of cowardice takes our fear of other people’s opinions and uses it to build all sorts of barriers.  We shouldn’t do that because of what these people might think.  We can only do that when those people aren’t around.  We don’t talk about such-and-such around so-and-so.  And we just pretend some things don’t exist.  At its worst, we stop living into aspects of God’s call to us because of what others might think about it.  We can become like the Dostoevsky character who wanted to give away everything that he had to the poor, but when he saw all his comrades only give a little bit, he decided that was what he had to do, too.  Instead of seeking first the Kingdom of God, we seek first the latest Gallup poll results and do what they tell us.

Instead of this spirit of fear, God gives us a spirit of self-discipline.  Certainly self-discipline provides many benefits, such as the capacity to control our appetites.  But self-control also keeps us from being other-controlled.  We don’t want to be controlled by the need for another slice of pizza, but we also don’t want to be controlled because we think that if we make donations to a worthy cause in someone’s name as a Christmas gift instead of buying some unnecessary plastic gadget found at the mall, people will think we are weird.  God’s spirit of self-discipline gives us the appropriate boundaries we need to do what God has given us to do.  We aren’t spending our energy trying to control other people or make them do what we want, but we aren’t letting our fears about their opinions control us, either.  Instead, we are taking responsibility for sailing our own ship along the rivers of God’s love and justice.  While figuring out what God wants us to do usually involves listening to the wisdom of other people, we can live our lives according to our own godly values instead of our anxiety about what other people think.      


We do not need to be afraid of other people’s opinions.  We do not need to be afraid that we are not good enough.  We do not need to be afraid that we will not get what we need.  For God did not give us a spirit of fear, but rather a spirit of power and of love and of self-discipline.

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